Daddy Issues

It is said that a girl's first exposure to the kind of man she will date or marry is influenced by her father. Therefore, it is safe to say that since birth, women have ongoing daddy issues. The presence or absence of a father has a significant impact for the heterosexual woman. Fathers can be …

I Am Forgetting To Smile

Forgetting to smile is not a new revelation to me. I thought I would share with the few who quietly acknowledge they are forgetting to smile. Here is what I mean. Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com I have self-diagnosed with mild depression I struggle to find joy in anything (except my 2 month old cute …

A Leap off the Sexual Precipice – The Ungracious 40s

Photo by Ebuka Onyewuchi on Pexels.com An acquaintance of mine in her late 40s has started lamenting about the dreaded menopause. She is in the beginning stages and apparently she is taking the change very hard. I know her well enough and I suspect that besides feeling 'on fire' due to hot flashes, she is …

The Sharp Tongue and the Right Tongue

You have met or know one or two people in your lives who believe their views of you are the best. They make no hesitation to say it in a harsh way. I use the word believe because another person's view of you may be a projection of his/her own circumstances versus the whole truth. …

Dealing with the Downs of Singlehood

If your first guesses that the worst downside of being single is missing sex or not having someone to talk to, then you would be wrong - at least for me. I am on a journey that has intensified in the recent COVID years. While I continued to work during the shutdown, my coworkers and …

The Human Irony

Humans brag and boast about our accomplishments. We are the smartest things on planet earth. We pat our backs for the modern marvels we create and stop short of calling ourselves gods. Yet, we are the most destructive and dangerous species to everything we touch including ourselves. In the pursuit of greatness, we overlook our …

Dear Married People

While the US is trying to have a race conversation, single people have been trying to have a relationship status conversation with married people. Are you single for a minute? then out trot your married friends and family who have suddenly become obsessed with your single status. They have intrusively made it their business to …

Blacks Can’t Be Racist

Blacks Can't be Racist. This statement is cemented in the majority black community as a fact. People throw it around like they are ordering a Big Mac from McDonalds. Every other race can be racist but not American Blacks. Alternative facts can spread faster than a spark in a drought ridden forest - thank you …

Fear Mortality

The concept of death is closer to my mind since I took over the care of my parents. It’s not just about them but also about me. Most of us healthy individuals live life without thoughts of death. In our avoidance and arrogance, we assume that long life is promised. We are shocked beyond belief …

The Elderly Sex Life

Delving into the sex life of the elderly was never intentional; however, a recent discovery made me wonder about the subject and evaluate my own hypocritical bias. I am aware that when we think of sex, we think of young agile bodies getting it on. We think of various interesting positions, the stamina of a …