Dealing with the Downs of Singlehood

If your first guesses that the worst downside of being single is missing sex or not having someone to talk to, then you would be wrong - at least for me. I am on a journey that has intensified in the recent COVID years. While I continued to work during the shutdown, my coworkers and …

The Human Irony

Humans brag and boast about our accomplishments. We are the smartest things on planet earth. We pat our backs for the modern marvels we create and stop short of calling ourselves gods. Yet, we are the most destructive and dangerous species to everything we touch including ourselves. In the pursuit of greatness, we overlook our …

Dear Married People

While the US is trying to have a race conversation, single people have been trying to have a relationship status conversation with married people. Are you single for a minute? then out trot your married friends and family who have suddenly become obsessed with your single status. They have intrusively made it their business to …

Blacks Can’t Be Racist

Blacks Can't be Racist. This statement is cemented in the majority black community as a fact. People throw it around like they are ordering a Big Mac from McDonalds. Every other race can be racist but not American Blacks. Alternative facts can spread faster than a spark in a drought ridden forest - thank you …

Fear Mortality

The concept of death is closer to my mind since I took over the care of my parents. It’s not just about them but also about me. Most of us healthy individuals live life without thoughts of death. In our avoidance and arrogance, we assume that long life is promised. We are shocked beyond belief …

The Elderly Sex Life

Delving into the sex life of the elderly was never intentional; however, a recent discovery made me wonder about the subject and evaluate my own hypocritical bias. I am aware that when we think of sex, we think of young agile bodies getting it on. We think of various interesting positions, the stamina of a …

Struggles & Lessons

As 2020 draws to a close, many can say it has been a struggling year. The coronavirus effects were not very significant for me. I thank God that I did not lose anyone due to the virus or by other means. I am thankful that I still have my job to pay the bills. I …

Beauty In Whose Eyes

THE BIRTH OF INSECURITIES A young lady disclosed that her mother had a mastectomy and her father left her mother because he could not stand to look at the changes in her body A young lady disclosed that growing up she was teased by everyone to include her family about everything - lips, hair, body …

11.11

VETERANS DAY Today is a holiday for some but an awareness day for all - Veterans Day. There are three days devoted to the military: Memorial Day - this day is designated for the service members who died.Veterans Day - this day is designated for those who have served, met the criteria and earned the …

A Time For Everything

As I get older, I am ever more aware that there is a time for everything. The bible was right Each person’s life, experiences, perspectives and thoughts are their own whether it is in real life or social media. At the end of the day, you are the one in your consciousness and body. People …