The Elderly Sex Life

Delving into the sex life of the elderly was never intentional; however, a recent discovery made me wonder about the subject and evaluate my own hypocritical bias. I am aware that when we think of sex, we think of young agile bodies getting it on. We think of various interesting positions, the stamina of a …

The Hell Of A Relationship

As the therapist spoke, I felt myself becoming more cynical and apathetic to his client's situation. Actually, my cynicism was there long before this therapist staffed his client. I had expressed my cold eye-rolling opinion about this particular client's situation in an email exchange; however, as the therapist staffed, I remained quiet. There was no …

I Have Forgotten the Importance of Touch

"I am just angry at everything" "You just need a hug," the friend continued "whenever I give you a hug, you feel better" Reluctantly "yes" When I was younger, I had lots of (good) touch, hugs and kisses. I relished them in my teens and early twenties. However, when I went off to college and …

Dating Anxiety

Don't get your hopes up 🙂 I haven't been on a date in ages... dinosaur ages I say. ... and I am okay with it. Is there something wrong with me? Nahhh. Bless you men and women out there who have the stamina to go on dates after dates and constantly meeting new people and …

What Scares You About You

As a child, I grew up with family all around. I had to seek out my quiet space to do my soulful scribbling or childish artistry. It was such a sense of peace to have those stolen moments. I was at work the other day and it was just one other person and myself on …

Sex (lack of) and the Single Christian☺️

Yeah, I know, there should not be much to say but keep reading. I was bad 😈. I was all for the ‘I will save myself for marriage’ thing years ago until I honestly confessed to myself and God that ‘I don’t really buy into it.’ (Hold your stones). I still do support those who believe that no-sex before marriage …

The Piña Colada Song and Creating Relationship Escapes

'If you like Piña Colada and getting caught in the rain...' Escape - by Rupert Holmes has been dubbed the Piña Colada song. It's a very catchy tune and great for dueling piano bar sing along. Recently, I was listening to the words more closely and it occurred to me that in this catchy tune, …

Sex Does Not Equal Love

Society had long conditioned men to separate sex from love and that strategy was a guarded secret not known to women.  Even though the sexual revolution gave women the freedom to partake of that strategy, we are still behind on the sexual freedom curve. Only a few women can truly engage in strictly sex behaviors without equating it with love or …

Love In Totality

Romantic love was created to be given and experienced in its totality and you should want it all. You should want the love that passes all the boundaries; love with intimacy and passion; trust and comfort; smiles and support; communication and understanding. You should want it all because anything less is just settling for a time filler. …

Building a Great Sex Life is Not Rocket Science by John Gottman (reprint)

(My note: Like everything in a relationship, knowledge is key.  This is both for married couples and future couples because too many married couples are having intimacy and sexual difficulties and too many Christian singles are going into relationships blind and perpetuating intimacy and sexual difficulties) January 4, 2017 The Gottman Institute In an amazing …